One of the reasons so many New Year’s Resolutions fail is because we tend to create goals without a larger vision in mind.
This part of the Design Your Life series will highlight life visioning, which is the process of deciding what you want your life to look and feel like. We will dissect how to create a vision for your life that will make you want to jump out of bed every morning.
My Personal Experience
For majority of my life, I just floated through allowing things to happen to me, not paying attention to signs of where the universe was trying to guide me. I had goals and an idea of what I wanted to be when I “grew up” but most of them were not truly mine and had very shallow reasoning behind them. In 2015, I went through a terrible breakup, and looking back I was depressed as a result. I was journaling at the time and only writing about how sad and heartbroken I was. Outside of that, I was a full time student, unsure of what I wanted out of a career and working a part time job that I hated. One day I was reading through my journal and realized how all I focused on was my sadness, and decided I needed to make some changes. In that moment, I threw that journal away, got a new one and decided I was taking my life into my own hands. That decision brought about a curiosity in spirituality, personal development, and mindfulness.
I got to a point where I realized how much power I possess and all that I am capable of. I understood how much my mindset was impacting my entire life and how I allowed self limiting beliefs to prevent me from making so many moves in my life. Instead of focusing on my sadness and lack of partner, I started to focus on what I wanted in my life. I had desires to have a healthier lifestyle, to be more emotionally free, to be more accepting of myself and most of all I wanted to learn how to truly love and take care of myself. I was life visioning without knowing it, by focusing on what I wanted instead of things I was unhappy about. As a result, I now have a life that looks and feels completely different than it did two years ago.
Because of these desires, I made better choices with the food that I ate, the media I consumed, the people I spent time with, the opportunities I pursued, where I spent money, etc. The process of life visioning brought me to a higher level of consciousness, to the point that now I ensure that anything I do happens only after a check in with self. I am at a point where I live a life that I am truly proud of, not a perfect life, but one that I am extremely happy with and have worked hard for. I share my personal story to encourage and inspire others to do the exact same thing.
Live your best life, don’t just use is as a hashtag
So how do you create a vision for your life?
Tune in with self, don’t be afraid of being alone and silent with your thoughts because this is how you tap into your innermost desires. Ask yourself questions; examples include: How do you want to feel? What kinds of people do you want to interact with? Where do you want to live? What kind of career do you want? What kinds of food do you want to eat? How do you want to style yourself? What kinds of things do you want to do in your spare time? What kinds of vacations do you want to take? What do you want your friendships and relationships to be like? What do you want to be known for?
Ask yourself these questions, brainstorm, truly sit and visualize the life you want. Breakdown the questions to the minor details. For example If you want to make dietary changes instead of saying “I want to eat healthy” you could say something like: I want to eat a diet rich in various fruits and vegetables, lean protein, complex carbohydrates, limiting refined sugars and highly processed foods. I want to eat meals like seared salmon, with baked sweet potatoes, and grilled asparagus or egg white omelettes and fresh fruit smoothies. Notice how approaching your life vision in this manner, with detail and refinement, provides a much clearer picture of what you want.
Feel free to share your thoughts, comments, and questions below!
Be on the lookout for Part 2: Personal Mission Statement