Design Your Life: Part IV

Goal Setting
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We have officially made it to 2018! First I would like to say congratulations for making it another year. Although this series has been all about setting goals for the next year, remember the most important thing you can do in 2018 is be fully present in every moment.

Now its time to discuss the final part of the Design Your Life Series, its all about setting goals that are relevant and realistic for you.

If you have followed along in the series, you should have a map or picture of where you want to go next in your life. So at this point setting the actual goals should be fairly easy because you have an outline to work with.

In order to set the right goals for you, revisit the previous parts of the series, review the bigger picture of what you want and list out your goals for the year according to that.

Some questions you can ask to help with setting your goals include: What are the things I have to do for 2018 to be a successful year? What are the most important things I would like to accomplish this year? What are 1 or 2 things I’ve always wanted to do, but have not made a priority?

Some tips for setting goals:

  1. Be realistic
  2. Set goals that make you excited
  3. Think less is more, try not to set too many large goals for the year. A goal can be as simple as calling a loved one once a week.
  4. Make as many time sensitive goals as possible, it helps with accountability
  5. Remember, time flies
  6. Set at least one goal for every area of your life
  7. Try not to over extend yourself
  8. Set checkpoints throughout the year to keep you accountable and make adjustments as necessary
  9. Have your goals written somewhere that you can access easily (journal, cell phone, etc)
  10. Don’t be hard on yourself, as important as having goals are, it is just as important to remember we have limited control over what happens. If you don’t accomplish something, don’t beat yourself up about it, just keep swimming.

I hope you all enjoyed this series and are looking forward to more on the blog! I have so many ideas that I’m excited to share with you all!

Happy New Year!!!

Design Your Life 2018: Part III

Free Yourself

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Part 3 of the Design Your Life 2018 series is all about letting go. In parts one and two we solidified what we want out of life and where we’re trying to go. In order to manifest those desires there are some things that will need to be shed.

This part of the series is titled “free yourself” because we are going to do just that. Whether its a habit, a mindset about a certain thing, an unhealthy relationship, unfulfilling job, unnecessary debt, clothes you no longer wear, whatever! Before you walk into 2018 there are things that need to be severed, ended, and/or shed in order for you to move to the next level.

For some people it will be easy to identify the things that are simply taking up space in our lives, for others the discernment process takes a little more effort.

If you are having trouble getting clear on the things you need to let go of, the first thing you can do is revisit your lists from part one and part two and notice what things take up time or space in your life, but were not mentioned in your life visioning or personal mission statement. Chances are, in doing so, you’ll find some things you need to let go.

Another way to determine areas of your life that need pruning are to ask yourself questions: What are the things in my life that drain me? What are the activities I always dread doing? What are the tasks,places, or people that no matter what always leave me feeling negative? What are things that I typically forget about on a daily basis? What areas of my life are more complicated than they should be? What areas of my life have I wanted to make changes in for an extended period of time? Why has it taken me so long to make necessary changes/removals from my life? If I woke up and the biggest issues in my life were fixed, what would that look like?

For me personally, the things I need to let go of deal with my state of mind, because I struggle with a mentality of lack in many areas of my life. 2017 has been a year of transition for me and I have discovered, even with all the changes in my life, I find myself paying more attention to things I have not done or don’t have rather than being grateful for the present. Going into 2018 this is something I am focusing on ending, if you have similar struggles this exercise is perfect for challenging unhelpful thoughts.

Be on the look out for the finale: Goal Setting

Design Your Life:Part II

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Now that you have a detailed vision for your life, it’s time to compile your core values in order to develop a personal mission statement.

I’m currently reading 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey and this part of the Design Your Life Series is influenced by the chapter on Habit 2. The focus of habit 2 is “begin with the end in mind.” In the chapter, Covey discusses how to draft a personal mission statement based on principles that are most important to you. Overall it’s a great read and I encourage you to read it if you have not.

A personal mission statement is basically a creed that provides a birds eye view of your life or the life you want. I decided this was the perfect follow up to part 1, because often when completing life visioning you will notice trends in your desires. When I conducted the process the overall themes for me were health, mindfulness, and love. In every area of my life those components were the underlying thread of what I wanted.

How to: revisit your life vision, notice any words you repeat or patterns you notice. From the vision you created answer the following questions: Based on this vision, what values are most important to me? What areas of life do I find most significant? If I could describe my life in a few sentences what would that be?

Now that you have answered those questions it should be fairly easy to develop a personal mission statement. You can create it in paragraph form, a few short sentences, or just a quick blurb of the life you want. For Example, I desire to have a well rounded healthy, active lifestyle. I want to spend my time serving others and cultivating relationships grounded in truth and love. I will devote time to my family, friends and personal development. I will take care of myself with the same generosity that I give to others. I will always make time for having fun and engaging in creative endeavors. I will share my successes and failures to those around me in hopes of helping others with their own progression.

If you feel like creating a personal mission statement is too intimidating, just focus on the year 2018. You can still revisit your life vision and develop a mantra based on the year.

Be on the lookout for Part III: Free Yourself

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